Self Motivational - Face your Internal Resistance

Posted on July 25th, 2009 by admin in Self Techniques

One of the key traits which stand out in self motivational people is their ability to manage internal resistance. Many people follow the usual steps of self improvement by focusing on goals and drawing up plans to achieve them. Then they get stuck and the most common reason is internal resistance. Why does this happen? Because we really like to stay within our comfort zone. Quite often we spend more time building monuments of resistance and doubt rather than expending the energy on shooting for our goals. Self motivational people are first aware that this can happen and secondly work on avoiding it.

Many of us just react to circumstance and just default to taking the easy option. We of course have to generate excuses to justify this action or lack of it to ourselves. “Its not my fault so I can’t do anything about it.” “I haven’t got time there are too many urgent things to be done.” “I haven’t got enough money to do something about it.” Recognise any of that? Self motivational people refuse to allow that internal dialogue to bog them down. They look at it positively and say “OK that’s my subconscious trying to protect me” They will look to see what does that thinking give you what sort of comfort does it offer. Then they will put in place actions which will move them forward but also provide a benefit to them. For example “I can’t give up smoking because many of my friends around me smoke” OK you are transferring the blame and/or putting up a fear that you could lose friends if you change your habits. Self motivational people would look to expand their circle of friends to include mainly non smokers. Then when they kick the habit try to help some of their original friends do the same. What a great feeling of empowerment that would give you.

How can you start to be more self motivational? Take a look at some changes you have made, no matter how simple or trivial. Realise that you overcame some internal resistance or doubts to achieve that. Then be confident that you achieved it once so you can do it again and see how you can generate some momentum. If you want some more support take a look at my self motivational book list.

 

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