Self Motivational Means Being in Control

Posted on November 1st, 2008 by admin in self motivational

One way to recognise self motivational people is the fact that they take control of their lives. Many of us do the opposite and give up control of our lives to others. What do I mean? When you lose your temper at the driver who cuts you up in traffic, at the call centre operator or their systems that send you round on an endless loop or at the waiter who brings you the wrong order you are giving up control to others. What we are doing is passing the blame for our current situation to others and so we don’t have to take responsibility for our lives. The key to being self motivational is to take responsibility for your current situation and ultimately for your life. When you take responsibility you will find it immensely liberating. If you want to improve your life you need to be in control and to be in control you need to take personal responsibility.
So how can you take personal responsibility? In the first instance it is how you react to situations. You can’t always control how others act towards you but you have a choice in how you respond to them. The next time some acts mean to you or insults you say to them “I do not accept the gift that you are offering”. Now what happens if someone offers you a gift and you don’t take it? That’s right the other person still owns it and they are stuck with it unless they can offload it on someone else. Try this and see how liberating it is and feel how much more self motivational you feel.
An important way to take responsibility and thus be in control is to be prepared to take decisions. It is said that our current situation is a direct result and the sum of all the decisions we have taken to date. So if you don’t like where you are now you need to be more self motivational and start either taking decisions or at least stop letting others take decisions for you by default. And in turn if you want a better future you need to start taking better decisions.
To have better control in decision making you need to become less reactive to what is happening around you. Self motivational people are always proactive in their decision making.
I am not saying it is easy and you can start doing this immediately. However you need to immediately begin practicing this type of self motivational behaviour until it becomes your natural response to the world and your future.

Take a look at this new 6 minute video on taking responsibility

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