Self Motivational Means Avoiding Blame

Posted on April 24th, 2009 by admin in self motivational

Easier said than done I hear you say, but self motivational people stay out of blame and are much more successful because of this attitude. Next time you feel yourself going into blame mode just stop and think for a moment. What impact is it having on you and even more importantly what impact are you having on others? In the first instance are you blaming others because you are upset and do you feel less upset because you are casting blame? It is unlikely. So if you still feel upset what is casting blame doing for you? Nothing I suspect and you certainly won’t feel more self motivational as a result. In the second instance where your behaviour is impacting others, ask yourself are you blaming them for exhibiting behaviour that you sometimes demonstrate yourself? By recognising this begin to take control for your actions. Blaming others robs you of self motivation and hands control over to those that you are blaming.

When you cast blame you are imposing your map of the world on others. Remember what we said before. We all have our own maps of the world and not only are no two of them the same none of them is an accurate reflection of reality. Self motivational people accept that others have a different outlook on life and set about understanding these differences not trying to impose their preferred view of life. By doing so they know they are learning more about their world and the people in it which is incredibly empowering. Now I am not suggesting that others don’t need to take responsibility for their action because they really do. However holding others to account is different from casting blame and self motivational people know that difference. In some difficult situations others may not take responsibility for their behaviours even when you try to hold them to account. If you want to be truly self motivational then you need to take responsibility for the situation which is causing you discomfort and maybe even pain. Taking full responsibility is one of the most empowering actions you can ever take and will demonstrate your leadership in any circumstance.

For self motivational people the opposite of blaming is being empowered, taking back control and being fully responsible for their journey through life. For more support take a look at my self motivational booklist.

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